Unrealistic expectations are the culprit in relationship problems.
The further extension of this subconscious demand is not seeing or experiencing the partner as a human being in the present..
It is the unresolved resistance to separation which leads people to expect partners to act as parents and fulfill past-time needs in the present.
Wolinsky looks at the root causes of unrealistic expectations: separation, resistance to separation, and desire for merger.
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Unrealistic expectations are the culprit in relationship problems