``When we talk of marriage counseling we think immediately of the extreme cases, of threats to seek divorce, of couples in violent disputes who frequently come to blows,`` Paul Tournier states. ``They live side by side, without hurting one another, but poles apart, because of no real understanding of one another.`` According to Tournier, the ability to Understand Each Other is what counts in working out marital happiness.
But there are many Other couples whose marriages are no less a failure. ``When we talk of marriage counseling we think immediately of the extreme cases, of threats to seek divorce, of couples in violent disputes who frequently come to blows,`` Paul Tournier states