Lying.
This book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and Abuse can make a m.
On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them.
What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages.
Commitment is forever.
She\'s your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she\'s not getting any younger you know.
You need to forgive them.
Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is: Who are you to judge? No one is perfect.
What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it\'s coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist.
The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries.
When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid.
The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay stuck in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the Abuse is somehow their fault.
There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of Abuse into keeping the relationship going.
However, this type of destructive manipulation isn\'t just limited to narcissists and sociopaths.
These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets.
FOG is an acronym that stands for Fear, Obligation, and Guilt.
Will they ever change? What will it take to get through to them? They apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to? This book will help you get out of the fog of Confusion and into the Clarity you are looking for.
Manipulating.
Cheating.
Lying
